Loved for who you are

My husband and I had a conversation last night about a friend who was recently told by their signifigant other that they needed to find a new job and "better themselves" or they did not know how their relationship would survive. I was appalled and very saddened for this person. I have always believed that you love the person. I love my husband regardless of what he does to support our family, his job does not make him who he is. I love him for his strength of character, his humor, love, intelligence, his looks are the topping on my cupcake. During our discussion I told my husband (I hope he has always known) that I will always love him because of who he is, not what he does from 9-5 monday through friday. I don't expect everyone to agree with me but I don't want to be liked or loved for what job I am capable of doing but for who I am on the inside. I have been having this ongoing dialogue in my head all morning and I can't quit thinking about it. I don't mean this as a critiscism to anyone but I just think that if you are lucky enough to find someone to love that loves you back-accept them for who they are not what they could be if they were to try and "better themselves" if they are happy you should be happy also. That is a simplistic view to some I guess but I choose to love those I love for who and what they are not what they could become if I push them to be more.