Mean Girls

I know that this is the name of a movie but currently I feel like there are more of the means girls around than nice girls. I wonder if I have done a disservice to my daughters by teaching them to always be nice even in the face someone being mean to them. I by no means think my daughters are perfect, I know they can be mean to each other, but somehow they are never mean to other children. It breaks my heart when we come home from somewhere and hear from them that someone was rude or just plain mean to them. The thing is I know most of the parents that are involved and they do not act like that so where does this come from. Would they be appalled if they knew their daughters acted like this? I have heard it be said that little girls are mean because all girls grow up to be witches with a capital B.

I don't know what I should do. I am tired of my amazing daughters having their feelings hurt whereever we go. I sometimes think that some of the crap that they take will shape them for later in life, but I want them to live life to the fullest and not feel pushed to the back and like they are not important. Maybe one day other girls will realize it is better to build others up instead tearing them down. Until then I will keep holding my daughters when they get their feelings hurt and hoping and praying that no permanent damage done to their spirit.